Crying for help

12/02/2009 08:50 am

As humans we often express our pains and sorrows in many different forms and ways. Happiness and Love are universally recognisable emotions that we all often express them in a uniform way which is understood by every human being.

If we look around and increase our awareness around the people that we know you’ll find that some people express their emotions in different ways than others. Some find solace in solitude, others in anger… no matter what the outward expression is; it is a loud Cry for Help.

The way we express our Cry for Help varies depending on our life experiences, our beliefs and values, and how we find comfort.

Some people’s Cry for Help is so quiet that it is deafening. Others’ Cry for Help is so loud that no one can hear it. All of these extremes and anything in between them are just forms of expressing our Cry for Help for anyone who is willing to listen and pay attention to them.

We see kids and adults going into isolation every time they feel helpless and fearful. We label them as Depressed and Antisocial. What a nice way to label someone. I was one of those kids. I felt that the world didn’t understand me. My world was made up of those that surrounded me at the time. That was my map of the world and I felt that I was confined to that map. Now I understand that the map of my world is boundary-less and the understanding is to.

Other people may go into a killing rampage, we confine those into the box of criminals or mentally ill. So instead of listening to their Cry for Help, what we do, we isolate them and we put them in institutions obviously with the best intentions. As the law of attraction goes like attracts like and more and more of these people are confined together. Instead of finding a way for them to understand that their map of their world is boundary-less we tell them that they are like the others and we confirm their thoughts, by confining them with others that are like them. So all they end up seeing is people like them which reaffirm their beliefs.

Other people find illness or drugs to comfort themselves with. They express their Cry for Help by getting ill or taking drugs or falling victim to an addiction. We shove them in hospitals and give them treatment for doing that.

Some others even try to express their Cry for Help with laughter or some form of entertainment or public post. We look at them and we say “what great artists they are!” Yet if we bother to look deep into their entertainment we see that they are calling for help. It is their outward expression to show us their Cry for Help. Instead, we build monuments and give them gifts when all they are trying to tell us is “we need you to hear our Cry for Help.”

And, there are many other forms or derivation of these forms of Cry for Help.
Some people then end up in places where they didn’t want to be. Marriages break down, mid life crisis, people go homeless, teenagers get pregnant, some take narcotics, others prescribed drugs, some find illness, and some others find death to be the only “person” to hear their loud noises and listens to their Cry for Help.

Next time you see someone behaving in a manner that you or the whole society doesn’t approve, listen the silence between the words and read the lines that are written with invisible ink. Have a look around your life. If you are married “listen” to your kids’ Cry for Help. That little boy of yours might be rowdy for a reason… it may well be his Cry for Help. May be that daughter of yours who is fearful might be calling you and asking you for your help. Perhaps your wife or your teen daughter overeating is her way of talking to you or to the world. Try looking into the eyes of your co-worker or boss, may be they are so “bossy” because no one is actually hearing their Cry for Help.

Today, ask yourself this question: “Who in my life is Crying for Help?”

Just don’t be surprised if you hear the answer in your own Cry for Help.

Joseph Warda
Active Business Coach
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Cry For Help